Thursday, May 31, 2018

Is Love Really Enough?



It was magical,
All the excitement that had filled my system since he proposed,
Butterflies flying around my tummy.

The silent giggles whenever his thoughts or face flashed through my mind
And then the D-day came,
Obviously the event planners knew their onions,
The arrangement and planning was on point,
Family, guests, all had a nice time.

Did I forget to mention the honeymoon? Far away in Hawaii.
I dreamt of it as far back as secondary school,
I flooded the internet and social media with different pictures and video of how it all went down.
Hmmm!

It was all I could ever ask for, a perfect union made in heaven or so it seemed, at that point.
Boom! Reality check,
Fast forward to present day.

That was four years ago,
It’s some few minutes past eight and he is not yet home.
The last time I checked,closing hour was still 5pm.
Normally,20 minutes tops after closing he's home.
My last redial just ended, the eleventh ring out.

Few minutes later,an SMS comes in "hanging out with some old pals"
How come?
I thought I was his best partner at "hanging outs"?
I just realised that was the third time this week!

Is he too engrossed with the drinks/buddies he couldn't spare few minutes to talk over the phone?
Why won't he answer my calls? Maybe he mistakenly left it inside the car.
No call? I am sure he ran out of call credit....
That's me trying so hard to make excuses for Bayo.

Wait!
Could Cynthia be right?
"Don't mind them, they will do everything for you just for you to marry them,get into his house  and then you will know his true colors".
No it can’t be, but all the writings on the wall are pointing to it.
Bayo is different, he has to be,
Two years of courtship and I never saw a trace of this trait.

Could it be that he was so good at hiding it or I was just too blinded with passion I couldn't see what was right there in front of me?
So many thoughts rushing through my head-it aches badly,
Then a sharp pain on my waist, 8 months gone and he kicks like every minute.

Just to remind me that it could happen at any time,
I tried to turn on the couch just to ease my discomfort.
I totally forgot I left the phone on my protruded belly,
Down it went with the screen smashing into a thousand pieces as it hit the marble floor,
Damm it- how I hated myself!

Now I can't even call Bayo, even if he tried, he can't reach me.
I am stuck on this couch until he gets back because I can't bend down to sweep no more.
"Madam,do not get into positions that will hurt your baby,especially domestic chores...let your husband or maid if available help you do it" That was Dr. Smith issuing instructions to Bayo and I  the last time we went for antenatal 3 weeks ago.

His concerns hinged on the fact that I had threatened abortion /miscarriage twice in my second trimester hence my pregnancy case file was tagged "Delicate".
After struggling to conceive for four years before it finally happened, the family doctor has been extra careful to make sure the baby arrived safely.

"The more reason Bayo should be here with me all the time and not with buddies, whoever they are" I screamed out.
"Aunty, what is the problem? Do you want anything?"
I was so lost in my thoughts, I didn't realize Uduak the maid had entered with the groceries I sent for,
I felt embarrassed and ashamed of myself but didn't want to show it.

"No....em em , I mean yes dear" I stuttered,
"get a broom and clean this mess" me pointing to the remains of my phone.
I could see the shock in her eyes, I am sure she remembered how I gushed on my birthday just last week when Bayo gave me the sleek Samsung galaxy note,
"don't just stand there,get it done already"!

How I wish I didn't turn down mamas proposal of coming in time to stay,but it was because I wanted Bayo and I to share those last moments together. Not being abandoned like this, certainly not like this.

And then the hour bell struck nine, as much as I tried to keep them out, Cynthia's words flashed again
"your husband is every woman's dream,tall,dark and not only is he handsome but rich as well. Even if he doesn't go after them, they will hunt him. My dear, you have to be closer to God and pray o,this is Lagos o,those girls are very wicked . As for me,I had to engage local insurance policy...em you know what I mean now aunty Bisi:.

I promptly rejected her assertions and ideas in my mind "Bayo will never cheat on me, I don't need black magic to keep my man, he loves me, very much".
As I remembered those lines,it didn't sound convincing to even me anymore,fear gripped me.
I removed my chaplet from my neck and started reciting the rosary "God please protect him, bring him home safely".

That's me trying to obey what my mum told me " always pray for your husband,no matter what. Pray first before you conclude on his behalf".
If there was anytime in my life I needed quick response from heaven, it is now. " if you can hear me oh Lord,bring him back to me NOW!" heaven could tell I was desperate.
The baby kicked once more and I adjusted the throw-pillow behind me to make it more comfortable, with that last movement, I slept off on the couch.

Hours later,I woke up in a frenzy,stood up and only then did I realize I was in our bedroom upstairs. Still confused as to how I got there, and with Bayo not snoring loudly by my side I reached for the door. The door that lead downstairs, mid- way through my descending the stairs, I peeped through the tiny tinted glass on the wall to see if his car was in the parking lot, but to my surprise, it wasn't.

" so he didn't come home last night,Bayo has killed me" I was breathing heavily as I turned the corner to embark on the final descent towards the living room,there he was!
Kneeling on one leg, the same position he took when he proposed five years ago at the bar beach, only that this time he had a teddy not an 18 karat gold ring.

It was a surprise baby shower party! Everyone who meant anything to me was already there, I am sure the public holidays made it possible to assemble them all. Bayo had been making secret preparations all this while trying to keep it away from me hence the late nights.

I couldn't take the remaining steps down,I practically froze on my knees. Tears rolled down my eyes as he held and raised me gently to my seat in front of everyone.
I was so overwhelmed with emotions and it didn't matter I was still wearing my pyjamas,I had never felt that special my entire life!
Even though the baby kicked that very moment,I didn't feel the pain. All I felt was paradise!!!


To all women who have endured the pain of pregnancy to give life. God bless you eternally



Monday, May 28, 2018

From A Child's Point Of View

We used to free, playing on the streets,kicking empty cans all the way to school and back.
We were free to visit the stream,coming back home with eyes so red you can’t deny where you’ve been ( you really didn’t need to anyway)
We used to be free to eat,drink in the neighbours friends house coming back home with big round tommies and shirts stained with oil due to the struggle for meat.
It was actually allowed to remove our sandals and walk bare feet, swinging them in rythims of songs learnt from the village square last night.
Parents yes, but the society was the standard model and watch dog. Kids getting spanked by total strangers when due and still complimented for not sparing the rod when the news filtered back home.
Teachers were idolised as mini gods due to the importance society placed on them- a noble profession with “rewards in heaven”. Life for us as kids was super fun.
We built castles with mud,using our legs as designs. Creativity and natural instincts buzzing in our heads.
The girls quickly learnt singing and clapping while gathered around in circles,cooking with empty cans and pawpaw leaves while the boys,armed with catapults,ventured beyond the boundary of the stream in search of that elusive old wise tortoise grandpa always talked about so they could be as wise as him. They actually did venture because the fear of evil men to kidnap them wasn’t a part of the society. But all that faded away.
We now grow up in houses with fences so tall they reach out to the moon, our freedom the society wickedly took us. The society you adults have created.
We play yes, but with toys and TV game consoles more than with the kids next next door.
We eat yes, but from cans and packs,beautifully sealed nylon wraps picked from the kitchen shelf cos mummy has to beat the traffic at 5:30am, and yet we dare not eat or dine even with our best friend in school because we don’t know the source of the water in their houses.
The closest I have been with my cousins is looking at their pictures on Facebook( the ones I know or heard of ) cos they all bad people who do not like us. While I struggle to make a sentence with my own mother tongue,teachers trying so hard to make me speak and sound like the half baked humans I see on DSTV,they say I will be accepted easily when I sound like them, why can’t I sound like you mum? If you don’t like the way you sound who else will?
Boys growing up on their own filled with Internet curriculum and modelling their lives to the edited content of celebrities on E channel because Daddy is busy meeting deadlines and targets set by the corporate world, a vicious circle that keeps him away like forever but to which he says pays the bills and allows me the luxuries I enjoy. Luxuries?  Seriously?  You mean being caged as soon as school ends is now luxury? That used to be when the fun was just about to start.
And so I get to spend so much of my developmental time with nannies sorry I mean uncles and aunties who are too busy on social media to notice me and when they do, explore my purity and violate my innocence , setting me on a dangerous path.
Cooking is now an odd ugly task meant for the chef while I dwell on the society short cuts: 2 minute noodles and coco pops. The joy of splashing and goofing around in the stream washing clothes now long as I only toss them into the washer.
You might argue that they have made life easier but also, it has taken away an essential part of learning and altered the natural balance of life teachings as we grow up. We now juggle between British and American curriculum expressed as Montessori for the elite while the poor languish in so called public schools at the mercy of unpaid teachers struggling to find motivation but surrounded by frustration hence the then noble profession now a shadow of itself.
Education should never be categorised based on it either being private or public; opportunities in life aren’t! No kid was born to come face this societal divide, we innocent.
In case you adults have not noticed,our innocence is a  different kind of beautiful that most of you only dream about.
When next you sit on the decision making alters and tables,remember we have the right to be protected and provided for but most importantly we have the right to be free, free from the mental walls and societal barriers you adults have created.
Happy Children’s Day

Saturday, May 26, 2018

Broken

What happened? 
How did we end up on this side of the lane? And yet I didn’t notice – till now when we crossed!
The sparks we saw in each others eyes  became so faint and yet it seemed so bright when you blinked.
The chemistry long gone and yet I felt our relationship was scientific (all figured out ). Even when the “hellos” became so far in between I still didn’t  feel alone!.
How come silence became the language we spoke so loudly? No wonder the simplest of discussions ended in chaos, while I remember vividly when we could go on for hours without noticing we’ve talked all night.

Those thoughts are a far cry to what we have become today – sadly so. It’s so easy for us now to spend time with outsiders and on social media with virtual friends than ourselves.
A song writer was sang “ if I can turn back the hands of time”, my prayers and wishes right now. Am desperate!

I don’t think it was ever a question of love; I had that in excess for you but it turned out it was not enough to keep you happy and walking from away. Walking away from what I thought we had and shared.

Even though we walked hands in hand during the day, creating a picture of a perfect couple but yet I wake up to a complete stranger in bed by morning.

Even when you tried smiling, all I saw was a frown rooted within. When you laughed, all I heard were sounds of a weeping heart. A heart filled with regrets and pains.

In as much as I do not want to accept the reality staring me in the face, but making you stay amidst all of these is a punishment I do not want you to endure – not anymore.

Because I still love you, I will always love you. Hopefully someday, you will walk back through the door of my heart because it will never be shut when you walk out.

I pray you find happiness and joy as you go, but, just in case you want to give love a chance with me- I will be waiting

Friday, May 25, 2018

Ekaete


The sudden strike of thunder jolted me back
Even thou the room was dark,
The lightening produced a rough view
Another soul lying innocently beside me

Hiding from the cold underneath the small wrapper
Ekaete oh poor girl!
Sent parking from home by her wicked step mother!
You wonder why?

Let me tell you my pathetic story,
We were young and full of unguarded energy.
I literally saw sparks whenever I saw her!
Her smile left me speechless,
The sensation her skin produced on mine
Can only best be imagined.
In simple words, we were “LOVE BIRDS”!

And in our final year in school,
Reading at night was inevitable!
Then came that night.
On a chilling November night
The harmattan season at its peak here in Jos,
A gentle tap on my back distracted my unsettled concentration.
Turning back,
What stood in front of me can best be described as an “angel”!

As we walked out of the auditorium with her in front,
Staring at the curves exposed by her tight jean and armless top,
Lustful desires stormed my head!
The dark path to her hostel was just perfect
The cold winds narrowed my options
If only I had not obliged to walk her
If I had listened to her solemn pleas
Caught up in the heat of the passion
I forgot my safety kits!

Now just five months after that evil night
Here I am,
Serving in a remote village in the East, Orji River in Enugu State to be precise
Ekaete out of school and without a home
Forced to pitch her tent with me

Both forced to survive on my mean allowance
And worse, expecting baby(s) I never planned for!
I ask myself,
Is it my fate or my destiny?

Must I suffer all my life because of one night’s mistake?
How long will this last?
How long will my so called love withstand this trial?
I face everyday with so many challenges I can’t overcome!
Now you’ve heard my story
Before you judge me,
What’s yours?!

Thursday, May 24, 2018

Beyond The Storms


Five years after we got married our son finally came,the pains of waiting for that long instantly vanished when I saw the Doctor hold him up,still covered with tiny drops of blood and wriggling his tiny feets. I was too excited at the sight I didn't notice the fact that he didn't cry as expected of a new infant. Exhausted from the 3 hour labour process I fell asleep almost immediately. Hours later I woke up in the private ward and there he was,perfectly wrapped fast asleep on the bed just beside me. He looked every inch a perfect baby coming in at 3.6kg and did I forget to mention he had Debo's eyes? The resemblance was striking even at a distance. Our lives changed with this perfect gift from God and we were more than ready to face the responsibility of raising our son Ayomide Adeniyi-Jones. Weeks quickly turned into months right before our eyes and I began to notice some "delays" in his development. Physically he was alright,he's appetite was good too but he was slow in movements and coordination. And just like every Y2K complaint mum I started researching the internet on what to expect from a baby of his age and I realised he didn't quite tick all the boxes. "Every child has he's own time table o,don't compare him with others". My Ghanaian neighbour trying to offer some words of encouragement after I opened up to her concerning my worries. I just had to speak to someone because Debo would not hear any of it "nothing is wrong with my son! Its not in our family lineage to be sick like this". Those were his words the last time I tried talking to him about it. But I was scared and confused,scared for my son!. When alone with him,I would stare at him for long periods,not in admiration but curiosity,trying to see if there were improvements in his cordination and speech but nothing happened. "who did I offend,who has done this evil against my grandson? Lets go and see my Pastor,he's very powerful and anointed". My mother Inlaw will cry and cry untill finally Debo agreed for us to go for a deliverance session. I went through all sorts of prayers and fasting,from,dry to white,sowing seeds in cash and in kind yet nothing happened. When it was time for him to start school,it was hell!. No school would accept him,one of the proprietress openly told me that she didn't want other parents to withdraw their children from her school due to the presence of "your son" around their kids. I couldn't believe she was referring to my son as a plague that needed to be avoided. My heart broke into a thousand pieces,I was the subject of discussion every where I went,even in the church!. "The woman with the boy who has refused to talk or is it that he cant talk? He must be possessed!" Whispers everywhere behind my back. Emotionally I was drained but I didn't want my son to see me cry. After one of such fruitless days searching for a school for him,I got back home and Debos call came in "Honey,there is an,Indian woman who has accepted to take him,he starts on Monday". I couldn't wait for the weekend to roll by for him to start. It was a huge relief for the whole family. This would finally help him to improve. Two weeks passed and I wanted to know the progress report from the Indian angel who has come to salvage my sons destiny. " I don't know what to do with him,am a teacher not a psychiatrist". Her words hit me like a sledge hammer,at that point I felt like giving up on my son. Why did God curse me like this instead of blessing me even though I waited for five whole years!. Maybe I should drop him off at the orphanage home or should I just pray he dies in he's sleep?that will save the family from this shame. Morbid thoughts filled my mind as I drove back home that day. Dinner was more of a ritual ir routine that needed to be done that night as the report from school hovered over everyone. Before we slept that night,Debo uncharacteristically asked us to pray holding hands,and while I slept,I had a dream of me and Ayo singing and dancing in church. Upon waking up,I had a new desire in me to know God for who he is and not just as a father Xmas figure we go to for presents alone and in my own case-a miracle. That turn of event and change in focus helped me to find peace within me and hence love my son Ayo even more. I realised he wasn't an error but a different breed that sees the world from a different perspective. And so he was not incapable but needed a different support system to learn. There was a paradigm shift in my view from him being sick or having a disease to him being just different. And while we were all thinking that he was ignoring us and the whole world,he was actually waiting for us to enter into his world!. I finally got to know about Autism and the brilliant work that had been carried out on the topic. With each passing day,I got more confident and proud of my son. I wasn't ashamed to take him anywhere I went,even to church. Few months later,we travelled to London to have my second baby. He wasn't allowed into the theatre like Debo and so when Atinuke Abeni-Jones came,he wasn't there. I was so eager for him to see his sister and so I requested he'd be allowed in. That was the day he spoke for the first time ,walking towards the bed where I layed and Debo holding her carefully wrapped in his arms he asked " Is she my sister?". My world practically froze,the joy was too much to bear ,it was as if I just gave birth to two kids at the same time!. Today on his 18th birthday,I had to scold him to keep quiet cos he talks too much, " just cut the cake and let the party begin for heavens sake". Hoe quickly we forget the pains of yesterday....


Inspired by Nneka Anyachebelu


Mama-Na's Tale


Mama-na! Mama-na!! He will call me.
I can never forget that deep baritone voice of his approaching our compound’s perimeter-walled fence made from dried millet stalks.

You could not mistake the excitement in his voice; another calf, the third within a week. This meant we had extra calabash full of fresh dairy milk.
More than enough for my Baba and I, and for that naughty friend of mine – Halima. She could have a cup, just one, when she comes to make her hair later in the afternoon that’s if she comes with my favorite gorrriba fruit, I know the one in their house has some ripe ones already; but definitely not Tanko, my cousin. If he wants some, he would have to go to the farm where the cows are and milk some for himself.

Not even the lure of beautiful big houses, fancy cars and colourful hanging lamps lined on their streets could make me leave the calmness of Kateri my village. We were told in the village square that you could walk for long stretches and your feet will not get dirty, because it was covered by a black wrapper that was so thick, thicker than my woven mat bed, a gift from my late grandpa.

Halima and I wondered how long it took their women to wash that black wrapper and how big the stream could be, compared to Kunstwa; our village stream down the valley as you exit Kateri.
Life was beautiful and growing up in the village was even sweeter! From the rising of the sun very early that gave me an even darker skin tone and smoothened it like Halima’s long hair; to the dusty winds my father claimed were our ancestors in the Sahara coming to visit us. We were contented, but most of all we were happy.

Suddenly, the room became bright…the lamps came back to life. This was swiftly accompanied by shouts of joy by children playing outside the yard. Only then did I realise I was in the rehabilitation camp in the city capital. I had been day-dreaming all along. I stood up and leaned back on the wall, my hands resting on my chin. I stared straight to the full moon outside the window up in the skies and my thoughts flashed back to that fateful day.

Even though he called me like he usually does, his voice was not as reassuring as it used to be. He seemed downcast; the look on his face did not help either as it was furlong, apprehensive and tense. He tried smiling but I could tell it was not genuine, same smile he had when he told me years back that grandpa had gone to be with our ancestors in heaven. It just was not his thing to lie to me.
He had been selected amongst the local coalition of vigilante villages to fight the bad people the Waziri talked about in the village square a night before.

I realised he had a bigger sack with him this time compared to when he goes to weekly market in Zango village. He told me he was going to be away for a couple of days but will be back before my supplies ran out.
By midday, he bade me farewell and warned me not to go anywhere especially at night even if Halima asked me to. I was sad and cried as I watched him ride his bicycle away with his gun dangling on his back.

For the first time, I was alone and lonely. And so it was for a whole week, the days seemed so long and unending as I waited for him to return. The atmosphere around the village got really tense; fear gripped those of us left behind, of what may have become of our loved ones. The many rumours flying round the village, did nothing more but worsen the situation. The uncertainty was killing me.
Finally, my supplies finished and I could barely leave my hut all day. My prayers intensified for my father’s safe return. But then, that same night…

Kaboom! Kaboom!! The loud bang was deafening and it seemed as though an unknown object from the sky had hit the land.

Half an hour later, I could barely hear any sound
The room was half lite as only the first ray of dawn filtered through.
My lamp had run out hours earlier, even though I could see shadows of people running across the door and window. I laid there trembling, my heart racing and thudding, almost jumping out of my body. I could only manage a few words of prayer for my life,
Seriously hoping that no one else will realize I was inside.

In a flash, I recalled Tanko, warning me of rumours filtering the village.
We were next to being attacked!! Could this be it?
The next sensible thing I thought to do was to run! Run as fast as I could! But the five hundred kilometer walk to Maradi village across the Sahara desert is in itself a death sentence. The insurgents had raided the surrounding villages days before, leaving a gory sight of maimed bodies and burnt houses.

My father who volunteered to join the local vigilante didn’t survive the first attack on Zango village. Here I was, already an orphan as I had lost my mother during childbirth hence my name “Mama-na”.
We had hoped that government forces would heed the call to relocate their base to our village before the instruments of terror got here.

At least, that would have kept us safe before the evacuation team reached out to us, or so we thought.
All those hopes quickly faded away when that first grenade exploded just behind my hut. Fragments of the brick wall and sections of the thatched roof fell on me. Even though it itched so badly, aided by the thick sweat running down my body, I was hoping it will cover and hide me so that no one else will know I was there as they conducted their door to door search.

As the echoing sound in my ears started to ease out,
I could hear cries of women and children all over the place.
Men shouting as bullets pierced through their bodies, the smell of gunpowder and blood filled the air. The symphony of the automatic riffles piercing through the air. I could tell the difference because the sound was different from the dane gun my father had. I just laid there hoping for a miracle.
Even though I knew I was seconds away from death, a fifteen year old all by herself in what seemed to be a war zone! Really? It was difficult to even comprehend it, I had to swallow the ball that had formed in my throat, and then, My worst fears were confirmed.

A ferocious kick in one swoop brought down my wooden door. Armed with a military lamp that made the room so bright like noon; he quickly spotted me where I laid. I was too scared so I was shaking uncontrollably. We exchanged short quick glances and what I saw was a figure replica of Rimi, the village wrestling champion who was tall, well-built muscular frame. He stood there just watching me from across the tiny mud room.

I could hear the rest of the gang members calling out to him “Mun gama! Mu je! Mu tafi” We are done, let’s go!! How I wished he obliged immediately, he bent over, laid down his gun and lamp
and he forcefully violated me. I could barely offer any resistance since
I had not eaten in two days and was very weak.
The last thing I ate were two pieces of unripe gorriba fruit Tanko brought for me. I was there motionless till midday, when the evacuation team finally arrived, bruised and bleeding out with a complimentary black eye to show for my lame resistance! One of the team members told me: ‘You are lucky to be alive, my friend.” I wasn’t sure if I agreed or disagreed with him. But the mutilated remains of men, women and children all over the place made his argument convincing of some sort.

But, that was a year ago. Today I have a three month old son, a product of that near death experience. I was advised to abort the pregnancy when they found out I was pregnant but I remembered my father had told me some time ago: “Mana-na, abortion is the same as murder!”
“A child is a gift from God” he always reiterated
And so I opted and determined to keep the baby. I promptly named him after my father. The society today call him a bastard, a product of wickedness and evil, but I love him, still.

He is the only family I have! Tanko was killed that day.
And Halima was abducted. I pray she comes back home someday-alive!

Second Chance



" If you're here to attend the sitting of the disciplinary panel on examination malpractice and cultism please come into the conference room now! Make sure you have your student ID card with you as you come. I will not repeat this announcement again". The husky male voice on the public address system was very loud and clear. I can not mistake that voice even in the centre of a busy market square. Prof. Ogunsoye Awolola,the much dreaded Dean of Student Affairs. The tone of his voice sounded exactly the same as it did when I stood in front of his desk a week ago,on my first invite by the panel.
Holding the record of having the most students either suspended or rusticated in his tenure as Dean just two years down the line in a five year term speaks a lot about his style of administration,his record does precede him.
"he doesn't have human sympathy at all,not even for the parents who have spent so much and sacrificed alot for their children to get within the four walls of a university,the previous Dean,Got bless his soul was not like that,not at all. He expels and rusticates students as if its going out of fashion all in the name of ethics,principles and rules. After all rules are made for men and not the other way round-haba!. Dr.(Mrs) Fauziya Galadima,the current university librarian ranting in front of his door,word is her niece got the same invitation like mine and all her efforts and pleas to get her name off the list have not yielded positive result,his mind was made up,she flouted the school rules and must face the music no matter the toes of the high and mighty that he might step on.
In one swift turn,she slammed the door behind her and brushed me aside unfortunately the file she had in her hand slipped out and all the contents flew in different directions. Still battling to cover her head tie and shoulders with the big silky veil in her hand,I quickly bent over to help gather the sheets that came my direction,some few seconds later I was handing them over to her,I couldn't look at her in my bent prostate position but I could hear her breathing heavily " thank you my son,this man is just a sadist walahi" she uttered as she stormed out of the office.
Next!!! His commanding voice echoed from inside his office. I was shaking and my heart was beating faster than it had ever been. Even though the air conditioning system was on but my polo top was half drenched and I could feel the sweat from my laps wriggling their way down my legs in quick succession. I wiped the pool on my forehead and promptly rubbed my soak palms on my denim trousers. I took a very deep breath and exhaled so fast I could feel it as it rebounded off the door in front of me. Raising my hand gently,I adjusted my ID so my face was up front and knocked on the slightly opened door.
" Young man,I don't have all day,come in already. I still have to prepare for the senate meeting in an hours time,none of that is of any concern to you anyway"
I took just two steps in,enough to give me space to close the door behind me- Morning sir....
"well,the morning looks good to me but if you're here for what I think you are then I would not advice you jump in to that conclusion just yet,no harm in been optimistic though. So what's your name? And please step forward,I don't want another shouting contest just like I had with that woman! Break my principles,no way,never!.
Being the first westerner to assume such lofty position in a university predominantly northern,he prides himself wearing the local western fabric "aso-oke" almost on a daily basis and today wasn't an exception. The cap with two wings by the side and a pointed tip been his trade mark look. He kept so much beards on his face,but it didn't do enough to to completely hide the tribal marks which lined his face,from the ears down to the base of his chin. Some say that's why he dresses the way he does because he cant deny his lineage even if he wanted to. Ever since he assumed office two sessions back,students patronage to the office has drastically reduced as a visit there only spelt doom.
My name is Franklin
Franklin who?
Franklin Asogwa I stuttered
And your matric number is....
99/8732BL I cut in
Do you know why you were summoned?
No....erm yes.....sir
" so which is it? Aye or Nay?well let me cut the long story short. You are suspected of being a member of the ungodly association Sailors operating illegally on my campus. Note I said suspected because investigation is ongoing but trust me we will get to the bottom of this  and when we do,pray that you are not found wanting else.....hmmm. In the mean time,I will advise you stay back and not rush home just yet because your attention might be needed at any time. Dismissed!!".
As I walked out of his office,I suddenly realised I was so pressed even though I had not eaten nor drank water since yesterday afternoon. I practically ran to the students toilet located by the main entrance gate of Samaru campus. As I fought my way through the zipper to relieve the tension in my bladder my mind flashed back to the first time I used that particular rest room. It was 3 years ago,I was a 16 year old jambite fresh from secondary school and out of the protective and watchful eyes of my parents for the first time in my life. 4 hours on the que and I finally finished my 100L registration as an engineering student. My father accompanied me down to Zaria just to make sure everything went fine.
 Even Mohd,my father's driver for as long as I could remember was ecstatic as he saw me approaching the car from his rear end mirror armed with my file,bank tellers and course form.
"Yung engenia" he said sarcastically and that made my father burst into laughter. The look on his face was the same with the one he had the day I got my SSCE result home,the look of a proud father!
'Lets all go for lunch before we head back to Jos,your mother is expecting us back today unfailingly' but not until I take a leak,I over heard some students talking about a student toilet by the gate earlier.
I resumed back fully two weeks later and just like every newcomer I was given tons of advice before leaving home.
' Face your studies,engineering is tough,its not like secondary school o my son" My mum obviously referring to my track record in Hillcrest international Academy my secondary school where I graduated from with 7 A1's and hence my scholarship to A.B.U Zaria.
'And please stay away from bad boys,remember who you are and where you're coming from!'. I can't recount the number of times my mother said that to me.
Been naturally brilliant,I settled in comfortably academically,I didn't have many friends because they were all older than me,none of my friends from Hillcrest was here so it was a bit lonely most times. That turned out to be a blessing as I buried myself reading all the time. Even during the peak of the harmattan season,I will brace myself with just a jacket and go to class to read at night since I was already accustomed to it growing up in Jos.
It wasn't too much of a surprise on resumption of 2nd semester 100L,when results were posted on the faculty notice board. The youngest boy in Electrical engineering had the best GPA of 4.89. I became the toast of every body,even lecturers. My circle of friends increased geometrically,even the pretty ladies wanted my attention,I felt like a king. Unfortunately the fame attracted the negative side too. Attending a birthday party of one of my new friends,a group of male students asked for a private meeting outside. I thought they wanted me to take them private tutorials'  like many others'  had requested but theirs was a different level all together. They introduced themselves as the 'united sailor brothers ' who look out for each other academically,financially and materially on campus. Not fully understanding their group and motives I promptly declined the offer.
Within the next two weeks,I was confronted more than ten times,they were stalking me and it was getting too scary but I was determined to obey parental instructions not to 'follow bad boys'. The height of the intimidation and harassment was the beating they unleashed on me on my birthday. Yes! My 17th birthday present was the beating of my life,I had 5 stiches and the worst headache for days. I was threatened and harassed and being young and naive I reluctantly agreed so as to free up some space for my dear life. How can fellow students be this daring and heartless I asked my self on my way back to the hostel from the meeting point. They educated me on their various activities both within and outside the campus and I was shocked to realise the span of membership: staff and students! My job was to help out other 'brothers' academically in whatever capacity ranging from doing assignments,sitting for tests and exams too! I wondered how that could ever happen with the strict measures and screening we go through before entering the examination halls. I had to keep studying,even attend classes that had nothing to do engineering just to be able to help answer their questions when called upon.
That extra baggage of lecture hours and workload naturally took its toll on my own performance and it showed in my 200L results. The excitement and rush to go check the notice board for another excellent result wasn't there,I over heard some students whisper that the 100L performance was a fluke,he's not that brilliant after all,I was deeply saddened.
I could not mail my result home as I confidently did in my 100L and when my inquisitive mother asked,I waved it aside sighting lapses on the part of the department to issue us the printed out copies. This isn't me,so now I lie so confidently to my parents,what have I gotten myself into?. I was struggling to survive academically and emotionally and I could not confess for fear of my life. ' if you open your big mouth to the authorities we will kill you,remember we are everywhere,you can't hide forever!' The words of the Capone always playing in my head anytime I tried making up my mind to spill the beans.
I was just a 17 year old boy,living far from home and thrust into the dark end of a corrupt vicious university life cycle all by myself. Most of the 17 year old friends of mine back in my neighbourhood where I grew up were still in secondary school. I used to think I was lucky and fortunate but it seemed a mere fantasy now.
I never attended their meetings neither did I contribute dues nor partake in sharing largess. I was just the brain box for my so called brothers. Invigilators would turn a black eye whenever I needed to exchange exam sheets or even access the hall with another brothers ID to sit for a test or exam,even in,other departments. I became exhausted both physically and mentally and began to disappoint the brothers.
As the 300L exams approached,I decided it was time to call it quits,as expected they threatened to kill me but I was determined more than ever,I was done. I started preparing for my own exams alone and on the day I sat for the first course without doing the usual stunt for the other brother in my class,they attacked me on my way back to the hostel after my night session studies.
I remember trying to dodge the first punch on my face and making a dash for it as fast as I can and as far as my legs could take me,I failed to realise they attack in groups,I would have known their modes of operations if I were attending meetings. I ended up running straight into the waiting arms of the back up group. They gladly pounced on me throwing punches at me from different directions,in the whole drama that was happening I suddenly realised their was a but of confusion. There were other people who had arrived the scene. As they were shouting at each other I stood up and saw plain clothe police officers brandishing their IDs and side weapons ordering everyone to lye down on the floor or else be shot. We were all arrested and taken to the police station that night. Apparently the police got a tip off and trailed them that night,I was released as the initial logical explanation was that I was a victim and not a member.
That window of opportunity allowed me to sit for all my exams while the remaining brothers wallowed in detention. I was always looking at my shoulders everywhere I went for fear of reprisal attacks and barely left my room,but those fears never materialised.
When my father called and asked why I had not arrived Jos a week after the school closed for the semester,I lied again about having a group assignment that needed to be submitted to the department before we would be permitted to go for holidays. "But why won't they allow you enjoy your holidays with your parents? To help them out with some things at home before the school reopens,it's not fair to us parents but what can we do? That's the system in our country today unlike in our days when we had free food and laundry. Good old days my son". I will be back as soon as we done with it Gods willing as I hurriedly hanged up the phone.

The past one week has been hell ever since that first encounter with the Dean,playing the waiting game for the outcome of their investigation. Will I be expelled or suspended and join the long list of students sent away by this trigger happy Dean? What will my explanations be to my beloved parents? All that pride he had about his son becoming an engineer flushed down the drain in just one pronouncement? How cruel can life be,but it wasn't my fault or was it? I tried resisting them,I tried coping with their demands. But eventually all my efforts failed. I failed not just myself but my parents as well.
But doesn't the system take any blame too? The same system that created a conducive environment for groups like 'sailors' to thrive. All the staffs who were in on it,were they not supposed to be the ones to counsel me against such endeavours? So many questions in my head.
I kept pondering on all of these and tears rolled down my eyes,3 years of my life probably wasted for good no I mean for bad. Now the tears flowed freely down my cheeks,and the voice on the public address system alive again.
" I repeat,if you're here to face the panel,please and please come inside the conference room!".
As I entered the conference room,I stood and watched as they sorted tons of paper work,files and letters. Just as I was beginning to feel they had forgotten I was there the Dean spoke out.
"Young man,we meet again. We have concluded our investigations". My heart sank as I prepared for the worst possible outcome -EXPULSION!
"You like so many others,naive,timid and young adults who got here through some act of fate and destiny  with so much expectation thrust your shoulders by family and society have fallen victim of vices you could have been able to overcome if you were more matured and the system more sanitized!. Your parents like just like the other thousands who have children in this school entrusted them over to us not just to teach but to mold all of you to become the pillars in which the society tomorrow will rest on. And untill the day we acknowledge that we are not capable then we owe all of you that sense of obligation. We as the school management accept our short coming's in this regard sadly.
And so,unlike me, today I choose to not break my principles but bend it a little! The panel in an unanimous decision have opted to pardon you if you promise to return your grades to what they used to be before you found your new friends. We will monitor your grades personally as a committee and i hope to see you on your convocation ceremony".
I couldn't believe what i was hearing, i just sat there not wanting to accept what my brain was interpreting from my ears. He doesn't look like a comedian so why today of all days he decides to crack an expensive joke concerning issues of life and death i pondered in my mind. It's definitely not funny i said to myself.
" Young man,do you want to stay here long enough for us to change our minds?".
And with that,I jumped out of my seat,I lost count of the number of times I said 'thank you sir's thank you ma's', 'God bless you'.
Even though I felt i didn't deserve the second chance life was giving me but i accept it with open arms. Now i can head to Jos and enjoy the holidays after a really stressful semester!!

Ripples Beyond My Heart - Part 1

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